How Helpful is the Story You’re Telling Yourself?
Our entire perception of the world is based on stories.
Stories WE MAKE UP and stories TOLD TO US that we take as TRUTH.
All we know in life is what we choose to see.
“One has not only an ability to perceive the world but an ability to alter one’s perception of it; more simply, one can change things by the manner in which one looks at them”. — Tom Robbins
What story did you tell yourself when you woke up this morning? Was today going to be a good day or a struggle?
I woke up this morning and asked myself,
“What am I choosing to see today?”
The answer: Beauty, peace and gratitude.
What story are you creating? One of hope and positivity?
What lens are you choosing to view the world through? Is it clean or dirty?
Are you creating a story that serves you or one that makes you feel negative, stuck or guilty?
As you tackle all the opportunities life throws at you are you creating a story that moves you forward or one that holds you back?
Do you say thank you for the opportunities to grow or get angry that life isn’t what you pictured it to be right now?
Lately I’ve struggled with MANY things that did not make sense in my world.
I had people and things taken from me that I did not want to let go of.
I didn’t like the circumstances coming my way.
I wanted things to LOOK DIFFERENT.
I wanted to cry and be angry.
Then I thought about whether that served me in the long run.
Yes it’s healthy to cry and get out my emotions — I ee so much benefit in getting out the emptions we have inside through tears.
I can also see that it wouldn’t be healthy to cry and be sad or depressed for longer than needed. Only we as individuals can gauge how much time we need to grieve or be in a place of sadness over a particular circumstance.
In the past I could get stuck in sadness for way too long — sometimes months or even years over the same issue.
I had default programs stored in my subconscious mind and they played out each time my “unworthy” button was pushed.
I spent a lot of time stuck and I didn’t know how to change. I didn’t realize I could change my emotional state by telling myself a new story.
Dwelling in and crying over the past took away my ability to be present now and see new possibilities. I realized over time that if I told myself better stories, or closed one chapter and focused on the new one, I could move forward anytime I wanted.
So now I see that I don’t have to stay stuck in the past unless I want to.
So in my current situation I COULD create a story that says, “All this crap is happening in my life and I hate it. I wish it would all go away. I didn’t ask for this. Why are these things happening to me?! Ugh.”
Does that story help me in any way? In my experience, I would say No.
So I shift and create story that serves me.
Lately it has been “These things are happening in my life to make me stronger, let go of what others think of me and grow me closer to people in life that really matter.”
Ahhhh that feels better.
“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so”. — William Shakespeare
That’s the place I want to live in today.
I feel hopeful and grateful.
And since my reality is whatever story I tell myself, I’ll choose that one.